I finally met someone I liked and now I am bruised.

I finally met someone whom I liked and who seemed to like me.

I was very guarded at first after XN. The new guy, W, was very keen at first - invited me to a family wedding after only 3 dates - but then backed off a bit. When I asked why, he said he didn't think I liked him so I tried to show I did and he backed off even more.

We were only together a few months but I'd really started to like him. We got on well, I felt very comfortable with him, and we had fun together.

He finally finished with me last week after ignoring me for a few days. Because XN used to do this, it drove me insane and I couldn't go into work for a few days last week.  I threw my first ever 'sickie' and was off work for 2 days, crying in bed til the early afternoon.  I was set right back to how I was after XN.

It turns out that he has a coke habit. This isn't the reason he gave me for finishing it but he said we didn't have much in common (i.e. I don't do coke?) and I wouldn't like his friends (because they do coke with him?).
I can't say if this is the reason why but I think his social life revolves around it and I was getting him to do other things.

I've been devastated and it's knocked me right back to how I was after XN, barely functioning in work, not eating or sleeping.

I don't think he's an N but some of his behaviours, unreliability, going hot and cold, and ignoring me at the end until I finally had to ask what was going on really reminded me of XN.